Here’s What Guys REALLY Want In Bed, And It’s Not What You Think.

You may find yourself in a rut when it comes to your sexual relationship with your partner. Couples who have been together for a long time often complain that their other  half longer tries when it comes to doing the deed. And we tend to make the assumption that men just want sex, they only need for the word to be uttered and they are ready to go.

That is not quite the case. Males need to feel desired and wanted by their lovers. They are no different than women in many ways. They want their love life to have a little bit of sugar and spice. And just like you, they want variety in the bedroom and outside of it too.


Sex is an intimate act that is fun, so enjoy yourself while you turn your man on. Here is a list of things men want you to do to get them in the mood.

Just like he tells you how beautiful you are, he needs to hear encouraging words as well.

Men have feelings too. What body part do you love about him? His lips, eyes, legs? Whatever it is, let him know. He wants to hear you tell him.

Let’s be honest about this, he likes oral sex. He is ready to receive anytime is offered to him.

Men love getting treated to oral sex. Ask him what he likes, you may be surprised to find out he is not looking for some weird, fetish stuff down there. Take your time.

 

Don’t be shy, take the rains during love making.

Guys don’t want to do all the work. Get comfortable and confident and go on top. Variety is key here. Plus, there are times when guys don’t want to do anything, they want you to do all the work.

This is not the movie when Harry Met Sally. Be natural about what you say and how you say it.

Don’t fake loud moaning and sounds of pleasure. If you are the soft spoken type during love making, than continue making your verbal approval known that way.

He loves it when you talk dirty to him.

As long as you are not acting it out from a movie or it sounds like nothing you will ever say, talk dirty. Tell him exactly what you want and how you want it done. He loves your naughty side.

Woo him by taking him out to a fancy dinner and a romantic stroll.

Think of all the times he takes you out and works hard to impress you. He will enjoy taking a backseat and proudly watch you take over.

Have a sense of humour about sex. It will help relieve the intensity.

Trying new moves out may not work out right away. So just laugh it off and try again. Another thing to remember is if he gets excited rather quickly he doesn’t want your pity. A massage or more kissing may be what’s needed to get him back on the saddle.

Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous when you want to seduce him.

It’s so easy to fall into a rut. Same room, day, and time to make love will feel more like a chore than an actual sexy and sensual time to connect. Surprise him, use props or set up a blanket in the living room for a prompt rendezvous.

He loves hearing you say his name over and over again.

Practise your sweet, romantic words to woo him. Say his name and tell him why you love him. Guaranteed it will drive him nuts in a good way.

Be open; tell him what you want him to do to you, likewise, ask him what he wants you to do to him.

Make sure you are both in agreement and giving 100% consent to try new moves. An open and respectful relationship is part of a fun and healthy sex life.

Dressing up as his favourite superhero or villain is welcome.

Getting decked out in full costume can sometimes be seen as cliché and tacky. Who cares? As long as you are both enjoying the role play, go as creative and far out as you want.

Don’t be afraid to leave the bedroom or even the house to make love.

Just make sure you are not trespassing or going somewhere you will get in trouble. Discuss where you both have always wanted to have sex. He will be on board and excited to take the plunge with you.

Take a bath or a shower together. Take your time and lather each other up.

There is nothing more sexy than a steaming hot shower or a warm bath. Take your time helping each other lather up. Another benefit is that you’ll be helping conserve water by getting clean together.

Don’t just give him kisses and touches for free. Make him work for it.

You will be surprised to know that guys love to be teased. Give him a kiss and pull back. Pinch him and smile. He will be pleasantly surprised at this new side of you.

Guys are romantic as well so try to set the mood for him with flowers and candles.

This is part of the foreplay that he will love being part of. Play soft music on or choose songs from one of his favourite musician. He will be very impressed with all the work and thought put into the night.